Help Women in Danger and their Children
Domestic violence affects all cultures socioeconomic levels and ages.
Domestic violence affects all cultures, socio-economic levels, educational levels and age groups. One-quarter to one-third of women have been affected by domestic violence, so whether you’re aware of it or not, chances are you already know a battered woman.
Domestic violence is an issue of power and control. Batterers control their victims — both the mother and the children — through verbal abuse, physical abuse, threats, abusing their pets, unpredictable behavior and blame.
The children experience both immediate and long-lasting effects on their self-esteem, their sense of safety and in their future relationships. They grow up learning that violent behavior is a means of interacting with and controlling others, and thus the cycle of violence is perpetuated.
Recent statistics tell us that children exposed to domestic violence are:
- 6 times more likely to commit suicide
- 24 times more likely to be sexually assaulted
- 60 times more likely to engage in delinquent behavior as adults
- 1,000 times more likely to become abusers themselves
Studies have also shown that 85-95% of men who batter learned this behavior in childhood by watching their mothers being battered or by being the victims themselves. But children can also UN-learn these behaviors – which is the SOLUTION to domestic violence. At Good Shepherd Shelter, the children’s experience of violence is validated but they also learn coping skills and new behaviors that are healthy and violence free.
Most importantly, they learn that, with these new skills, they can choose to end this destructive legacy.
Our Charitable Partners program offers the best approach to ENDING the GENERATIONAL cycle of violence. The goal is to give these children alternative means of interacting and negotiating to get what they want while respecting the needs and dignity of others.
This takes time but it is worth the effort as we see 96% of the families who complete our program are living violence-free.
What WE do:
Our partners program focuses on providing therapeutic and educational support to the mother and her children. Each family at the Good Shepherd Shelter lives in individual apartment units. These family apartments provide privacy, space and safety and give the mother an opportunity to transition and adapt to being a single parent. She can establish a new family routine and give each child the time and attention needed to feel secure.
The school on campus gives the children a safe environment that promotes self-expression, autonomy, and develops a positive sense of self-worth – all directed at helping them to heal and experience a safer childhood. In addition it provides transferable credits for K-5 and small learning groups tailored to meet these children’s special needs. With the emotional turmoil of a violent household, many are below grade level and often have emotional, behavioral and learning difficulties. Through individualized attention and special activities, the children rebuild their self-esteem and have a positive school experience. The mothers are taught how to assist them with homework, support and sustain their academic and personal efforts. The therapeutic program for the children includes individual and group therapy that seeks to repair the emotional and psychological damage caused by the violence perpetrated by someone who was supposed to be their protector in their own homes. A safe environment is created in which each child is able to freely express their feelings, learn coping skills to deal with trauma and appropriate communication methods that will break the generational cycle of domestic abuse.
Each family’s stay is determined only by their needs and participation in the program, not by any predetermined mandates from an outside funding agency. The mother meets with the staff at regularly to discuss short-term and long-term goals for herself and each of her children and how we can assist her in meeting those goals. The average length of stay is 10-12 months.
When they are ready to relocate to the larger community, they are encouraged to establish a support system in their new location. No matter where a Good Shepherd Shelter family may live, the staff is always ready to offer assistance in any way possible to help families make a successful transition.
Help our mission by donating. What can you donate??
- Baby Formula
- Money (most services at the shelter need your money donation to pay for staff, bills, rent, maintenance)
- Interview and professional clothes.
Where can you make your donation?
- Donate at our link.
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Or send your clothes donation or checks to Embrace Foundation: